Punishing Your Lover

Why it’s not a good idea to punish your lover if they reject your romantic advances by ignoring them or holding back when they don’t do what you expect or react the way you think they should.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who has been having some problems exercising emotional self control with a woman he has been dating for about three months. He says that everything seemed to be going well up until recently. She was doing 90% of the chasing and was always happy to hear from him. The last time they were together he says she was testing him a lot. He became annoyed by this, but ignored the way she was behaving and just continued to be sweet to her. This caused her to test him even more. He became frustrated and left without them hooking up like they usually did. She texted him a few days later. He punished her by taking two days to respond; she ignored his text. Eleven days later he texted her again and asked her when she was free to get together. She told him that she was not free and did not think she would be. She basically blew him off for good. He asks my opinion.

“Sometimes, when things are going really well in a relationship, women will screw things up and mess with a guy just to make things interesting, test his strength and see how he handles himself. If the man is centered and has emotional self-control, he will not be diminished by her testing and will be his usual playful and charming self. However, if he gets upset, annoyed, comes unglued and allows her testing to diminish and un-center him, she will back away and test him more as she no longer trusts his masculine core. That is why it is essential for men to have a strong sense of self, a purpose and a mission they are pursuing with a passion and fearlessness in life, and never be seeking anyone’s approval. Women test when they sense weakness. When a man is focused on giving instead of needing, he will easily pass a woman’s tests of his strength.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

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