Freedom Leads To Monogamy

The importance of maintaining your lovers or potential lovers sense of freedom to come and go as they please and date who they please, and how this will actually cause them to choose you over all others and want to be exclusive and have a monogamous relationship with you.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who is forty-seven and his ex wife is fifty-two. They were married for eighteen years and divorced seventeen months ago. Shortly after they were divorced, they started dating. In the divorce, he got the house. What’s interesting about this situation is that she still lives there with him. Sometimes she sleeps in his bed, and sometimes she sleeps in the spare bedroom. A few weeks ago, they had a big falling out and she said she was going to move out. That’s when he found my work. He says he realized that over the course of the twenty-three years they were together, that he acted like a needy bitch too many times and in too many ways. When they were married, he often whined about how they did not spend enough time together and he would ignore her for weeks at a time when her attitude towards him was crappy. He also acted jealous and insecure by invading her space and thinking she was having an affair. He has been dating other women that he has met online, and his ex also is doing online dating. Recently, he said he didn’t want to date anyone else and that they should both take their online dating profiles down. She agreed. However, she still has not taken her online dating profile down and makes excuses when he brings it up. He’s still dating other women, but he really wants to be exclusive with his ex again and asks my opinion on the situation.

“As Thich Nhat Hanh says, “You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.” In order for an exclusive, monogamous relationship to happen easy and effortlessly, you must maintain the other person’s feeling and sense of freedom to come and go as they please. Human beings naturally and instinctively resent and will rebel against other people who try to take away their freedom or control them. Love is about giving. The purpose of all relationships is that you go there to give. The moment you start trying to possess or control a lover who has a healthy self-esteem, is the moment that you will start driving them away from you and causing them to lose interest. The strongest way to create attraction is to love them, but to give them the freedom to choose you, someone else or no one at all.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

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