The Fallacy Of Hiding Your Attraction

Why it’s always better to act upon your attraction or desire for someone you want to date instead of trying to fly under the radar and masking your true intentions and feelings, by saying you are interested in friendship when you are not, or denying that you don’t have any interest when you do.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a viewer who always had a strong sexual attraction for a female coworker of his for the past few years. However, she always had a boyfriend, so he kept his feelings to himself. She even got this boyfriend a job at the same company. A few months ago, they broke up. He said there has always been “accidental” touching from her towards him either at work or when they and their fellow coworkers went out for drinks after work. She always laughs at his jokes and thinks everything he says is hilarious. She even told him that he was number two on her list of male coworkers she found attractive. Recently they were out together and he vomited his feelings all over her. She asked him what he wanted her to do with that and said she couldn’t date another coworker. However, she invited him to walk her to her car. He went for the kiss, and she kissed him back for about fifteen seconds until she backed away saying it was too weird. He convinced himself it was weird also, and then stupidly told her that kissing her was like kissing his sister. This was a lie. He asks me what he should do now in order to undo his foolish mistakes and date her.

“When a man finds a woman attractive, the most masculine way to respond is to immediately express his interest without any fear of the consequences or potential for rejection. As long as a man shows up and expresses his interest without fear or shame, even if he gets rejected, at least she will respect him as a man for showing up. One of the worst things a guy can do that will ruin his chances of ever dating her and potentially having a relationship with her, is to pretend as if he is only interested in being friends, he has no romantic interest in her or try to be friends first in hopes that he can fly under the radar and vomit his feelings all over her at a later time. This is cute in movies, but it’s one of the quickest ways a man will lose a woman’s respect and blow his chances forever of dating her.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

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