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20 REAL Signs That He Cheated - Is He Having An Affair?
By: Carlos Cavallo

If you want to create a relationship of love, trust, and connection, you have to know if your man is being faithful. It's also important to see any signs that he cheated - or if he's thinking of being unfaithful or having an affair.

Some men can stray - and usually not because he's a "bad" person. He strays because he doesn't know how to navigate his own emotions to avoid the temptations. Sometimes a relationship can be tested, and you don't want to lose a good man to a bad situation.

But first - we need to ask a very important question:

What Do You Think Is “Cheating”?
For some people cheating is ANY activity with someone of the opposite sex. For others, it might need to take a romantic overtone.

And for other women, it might require an emotional attachment. Or just physical cheating.

Whatever your definition might be, you are probably pretty sure you know when a guy has been up to no good. You know what your limits are, and you won't let them get out of control.

But one thing you do need to do up front when you get intimate with a man is let him know what you consider acceptable versus not acceptable. If you don't tell him, he can always pull that excuse of “I don't know.”

Yes, we know that's not a legitimate reason. But you don't want to leave your boundaries in your relationship ambiguous or fuzzy.

One of the most common problems I notice in relationships is when these boundaries haven't been talked about.
Mostly because of fear.

If you have your definition of what cheating is, stick to it.
Keep your relationship free from the problems of poor boundaries.
Communicate what you expect from him so that you can expect it from him.
Before we get started here, you need to make sure you realize that everything I point out about men's behaviors when they're cheating are also true about women in the same situation. It's tempting to make men out to be the more unfaithful and least trustworthy or reliable.

If we start believing these ideas about men and cheating, you can create really harmful trust issues for yourself.
When we ascribe a particular behavior to a gender - in this case men - we run the risk of creating prejudice and mistrust.

Just remember that the door swings both ways. Compassion is a better companion than suspicion and fear.

Before we talk about the signs, one thing you must be sure to do is wait until you see at least two or three of these signs before you confront him. One signal on its own is not necessarily enough.

You don't want to go accusing him without good justification. That could cause just as much damage as infidelity might.

Now let's get into the signs that he cheated:

Sign #1: Social media signals
One of the most obvious signals you'll encounter is when you notice something concerning on social media.

For example: If you noticed on Facebook that he is getting tagged in someone else's photos more than usual, or he's commenting on some other woman's wall, you should keep an eye on that.

It's more and more common for people to start flirting through social media, and that's how these kinds of side relationships can start.

Keep your eye on him!

Sign #2: Your instincts are tingling
This one is extremely important. If you find that you have this weird gut feeling that something is going on, that probably means something is going on.

Most women discount their feminine instincts these days. That's a shame because you can trust your gut to give you an alert when something isn't quite right.

Get back to trusting yourself!

If something just feels a little bit off, you should take a closer look at it. Don't ignore your inner voice of wisdom.

When you learn to distrust yourself, it can be very hard to rebuild that relationship again.

Sign #3: He goes “dark” for long time periods
If your man disappears for long periods of time - more than a day or so - that's an indicator that he is preoccupied. If he's normally the kind of person to ...

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Signs That He Cheated
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