A few questions we should ask Ngozi Fulani (longer version)

A few questions we should ask Ngozi Fulani. (1) Did she or her charity refuse to help a lady because she was not ethnic enough for the charity as this allegation has been made. (2) Why would she release the conversation of a private conversation when her charity is about abused women. Does this mean her clients cannot trust client confidentiality? (3) How does she determine her clients ethic status if as she seems to suggest asking them is some form of abuse. Presumably she would never ask, unless for some reason she believes it is acceptable if she asks but not others.

A question to those who believe she is in the right. If it turns out her or her charity did turn down helping a woman. Does that not mean she is worse than any racist?