Answering a commenter episode 3

"Ok, black Pope, I don't know where to put this question, so I'll ask here: I'm white, so maybe I don't understand, but I have been told by a white woman who's married to a black man that it's subtle racism when another woman told her that her "your husband is so well-spoken". I don't see it. Am I being naive? Or is she being oversensitive? Can you please cast your infallible decision ex cathedra?"