TL;DR - Disproving a Feminist Using Feminists

People's understanding of feminism comes from the feminists they see, meet and interact with. If what they see enough of is thoroughly unpleasant don't be surprised when that becomes their view of feminism.

Sources:
http://www.attn.com/stories/3889/myths-about-feminism?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=post&utm_campaign=internal

Feminists are Unattractive:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PwYN7l--3oY
http://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/big-bang-theorys-kaley-cuoco-sweeting-apologises-for-saying-shes-not-a-feminist-9956393.html
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ivndojtMRgs

Stay at home mothers can be feminists:
https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=_wA8YAdFoS0C&pg=PA508&lpg=PA508&dq=Being+a+housewife+is+an+illegitimate+profession+The+choice+to+serve+and+be+protected+and+plan+towards+being+a+family-+maker+is+a+choice+that+shouldn%E2%80%99t+be.&source=bl&ots=iVVey5ts_F&sig=eqE802U7-FU8pGgR_RjcabtguQs&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjh8MP1rbjJAhVDVxQKHSptCuEQ6AEILDAC#v=onepage&q=Being%20a%20housewife%20is%20an%20illegitimate%20profession%20The%20choice%20to%20serve%20and%20be%20protected%20and%20plan%20towards%20being%20a%20family-%20maker%20is%20a%20choice%20that%20shouldn%E2%80%99t%20be.&f=false
http://www.wealthysinglemommy.com/you-cannot-call-yourself-a-feminist-and-choose-to-be-financially-dependent-on-a-man/
http://jezebel.com/5991343/the-feminist-housewife-is-such-bullshit
http://thoughtcatalog.com/amy-glass/2014/01/i-look-down-on-young-women-with-husbands-and-kids-and-im-not-sorry/

Name Changing is anti-feminist:
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/mar/07/women-stop-changing-your-name-when-married
http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2013/03/08/dont-change-your-name-when-you-get-married/

Cooking and Cleaning and patriarchy OH MY:
http://londonfeministnetwork.org.uk/home/patriarchy
http://www.culturalbridgestojustice.org/programs/sexism/internalized-sexism/

EDIT (01/12/15):
Amanda Marcotte wrote an article denouncing home cooked meals but only as a wider part of 'patriarchal norms', but still, here it is:
http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2014/09/03/home_cooked_family_dinners_a_major_burden_for_working_mothers.html
/EDIT

Men can be feminists:
http://kareningalasmith.com/2013/12/16/thanks-and-all-but-no-thanks-i-dont-want-men-in-my-feminism/
http://veganfeministnetwork.com/resources/ten-ways-for-men-to-be-vegan-feminist-allies/
http://www.bustle.com/articles/117595-10-ways-men-can-be-feminist-allies-because-yes-feminism-is-for-everybody