Lust or Love

Love, in most of our relationships today, is a lofty goal. If you were to ask most people in class or on the street, what are you looking for in a dating relationship, love probably won’t be the first thing that comes to mind and, for some, won’t come up at all. Due to past failed relationships, trust issues, disordered desires and many other things, a lot of us actually avoid love. We use terms like, “catching feelings” to describe it, almost as if it were a virus or something. It’s like dating is a game and the goal is to play as long as you can with as many people as you can before you get taken out by love, then it’s “game over.” So, how did we get here? How did our goals and desires for relationship become so distorted and broken?