Teaching Self-Reliance to Children

We have put our children in trouble. Oh, you are the son of the poor, you can't go like this. Those poor people, son, you can't go with such and such. We destroyed the desires of our children. We made them weak. We taught them again and again. That father was self-reliant. He had a small income but he used to say to his son in the summers, Son, you have put seeds in the field and your mother has put pickles in the field.