One of the more common complaints I hear from spouses is when one of the partners in the marriage talks about being alone in their marriage. These lonely spouses perceive a seemingly invisible barrier between each other. It’s a communication breakdown they cannot change because the deepest and most intimate component of marriage communication is uniquely spiritual. While couples can relate in many ways, there is one way that is non-negotiable if you intend to engage each other like Christ and His church (Ephesians 5:25-33). That spiritual component is an intimate three-person dynamic between the husband, wife, and God. I’m not necessarily talking about praying together, going to church, reading the Bible, or doing other churchy things—all vital aspects of a sound relationship. I’m speaking of in-depth and comprehensive spiritual communication. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

What is the most important quality you would like to have in your marriage? Of all the qualities to choose from, there is one transcending quality that must be at the top of your list. That one transcending quality is God’s glory. If your desire to glorify God is the chief aim of your life and marriage, there is a fantastic chance you will experience a meaningful and satisfying relationship with your spouse, even should your spouse not meet all of your expectations. There is nothing that transcends this God-centered quality in His image bearers. Suppose your chief aim in life is to spread the fame of God. In that case, you can be comforted by the fact that even sin or non-sinful disappointments and let downs will not overcome your dogged and steadfast determination to be like Jesus—a primary way to glorify God (Ephesians 5:1; 1 Corinthians 11:1). Whenever sin makes its advances, your determination to glorify God will win the war against sin’s intent. When the guardian of your heart is the glory of the Lord, you’re in the best place to be a good friend, a great lover, and a wonderful spouse. There are many tools available to help you more effectively glorify God. May I share three of them with you? Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

I watched my wife go through three miscarriages. They happened to her. It was her pain, her disappointment, her fear, but they were my miscarriages, too. I did not feel hurt the way she did. I have no idea of the physical, mental, and emotional agony of a miscarriage—at least not the way she does. But I hurt because she was hurting. I hurt because I lost something, too. We are one flesh. When someone murdered my brother in 1997, my wife hurt along with me. She did not hurt the way I did, but she hurt because her husband was hurting. We are not two people acting independently of each other. We are one body (Hebrews 13:3). When I sin—no matter what it is—my wife has a responsibility for that sin. She would never say, “That’s Rick’s problem. That’s his sin.” No, it’s our sin. She is not guilty of my sin, she does not repent of my sin, and God does not consider her guilty for my sin, but she has a role to play because she is me, and I am her—we are one. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

I watched my wife go through three miscarriages. They happened to her. It was her pain, her disappointment, her fear, but they were my miscarriages, too. I did not feel hurt the way she did. I have no idea of the physical, mental, and emotional agony of a miscarriage—at least not the way she does. But I hurt because she was hurting. I hurt because I lost something, too. We are one flesh. When someone murdered my brother in 1997, my wife hurt along with me. She did not hurt the way I did, but she hurt because her husband was hurting. We are not two people acting independently of each other. We are one body (Hebrews 13:3). When I sin—no matter what it is—my wife has a responsibility for that sin. She would never say, “That’s Rick’s problem. That’s his sin.” No, it’s our sin. She is not guilty of my sin, she does not repent of my sin, and God does not consider her guilty for my sin, but she has a role to play because she is me, and I am her—we are one. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

If you put two sinners in a box, a room, or a home for an extended period with no plan for escape, you can expect problems. There may be a lot of love along the way, but there will also be unavoidable disappointments, arguments, and conflict. The dating couple can break up and go on to the next relationship. Vocational workmates are similar. If you don’t like your boss or the environment in which you work, you can move on to the next big thing. Marriage is different. Though it’s easy to get into, there is no escape plan other than death. Sadly, too many couples ignore the hardness of their hearts and create an alternate plan: divorce (Matthew 19:8). By the time two people enter a dating relationship, they come together with their unique baggage: fallen shaping influences given to them by Adam, others, and their personal choices. After you commingle their baggage, there is no way to avoid sinful combustion in the home. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

A husband and wife are not just two people within the marriage. Yes, they have independent relationships with the Lord and with others, but they are also one flesh. Like our blessed Trinity, there is perfect oneness that unites the Father, Son, and Spirit. This kind of union is both a mystery and a practical reality. Though we cannot fully understand what a one-flesh union means, we can functionally and faithfully participate in a one-flesh marriage while enjoying its benefits. Before two people made a one-flesh covenant (agreement) with God, they were two individuals belonging to different family units. At some point after their initial introduction, they realized that being with each other was worth leaving their respective families to set up their unique autonomous domestic empire. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

How honest can you be with your spouse? Is your marriage vulnerable and safe enough to communicate transparently? Are you free from critique and condemnation, which releases you to be vulnerable? A good way to consider my questions is to reflect upon how you relate to the Lord. I suspect you are honest, transparent, and vulnerable with Him. You freely talk to Him (prayer), and He freely talks to you (Bible). He knows you through and through, and though your relationship is not perfect, you are in a safe place as you mature with Him. Because of your call to imitate God, you have a remarkable opportunity to export your relationship with the Lord to your spouse (Ephesians 5:1; Philippians 4:9). Think for a moment about what it could look like if you chose to imitate God in your marriage. Let’s focus on only one of the ways God relates to you: He does not condemn you. God never condemns, mocks, criticizes, or puts you down when you share your heart with Him (Ephesians 4:29). He is always ready to listen and willing to help. The Father knows your frame and understands your weaknesses. He encourages you by speaking into your various situations with love (Psalm 103:12-14). Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

If you are going to imitate the Lord in your marriage (Ephesians 5:1), being for your spouse must be a logical and loving objective and practice. That is how Paul talked to the Romans about the Lord’s attitude toward them. He said God was for them. God is for you, too. Think for a moment about how God is for you and how that motivates you to love Him. God being for us is one of the most significant highlights of the gospel. He is the one person we cannot have against us. Before Paul told the Christians in Rome that God was for them in Romans 8:31, the apostle provided a few practical examples of how God was for them (Romans 8:29-30). He talked about God’s active goodness on behalf of those He loves. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

When your spouse sins, who pays for it? Do you make them pay for what they did wrong, or do you take your spouse to Jesus and show them how His death is enough punishment to remove all of our transgressions? Christians understand the point of the gospel: Christ paid for our sins. The profundity of the gospel encapsulated in five monosyllabic words is amazing grace! This simple way of explaining things is how we taught our children. I would hold up my right hand so they could see each finger. Starting at one end, I showed them the gospel. Five fingers. Five powerful words: Christ. Paid. For. My Sins. When Adam chose to walk away from God by believing a lie (Genesis 3:6), God instituted a plan to redeem Adam and his fallen race (Genesis 3:15). Adam could not save himself. If God did not intervene, Adam and the rest of us would spend a Christless eternity in Hell. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

I was meeting with a couple who seemed convinced that the other person in the marriage was the biggest sinner in the room. Both of them were clear about how the other spouse was sabotaging their relationship. They had their facts straight, and, for the most part, they were correct in their accusations. It did not matter what angle I took to motivate them to think and act like Christians. Finally, after several attempts to convince them of the futility of their positions, I conceded any further hope of a ceasefire. There would be no redemptive-relational progress that day. They were too mad, too self-justified, too hurt, too unforgiving, and too stubborn to change. At that point, I gave up and recommended that the combatants continue their conflict. Yes, I told them to pursue their anger toward each other. “Keep on keeping on. Duke it out.” I paused and added, “But under one condition, I want to make a stipulation.” I said they could continue to fight all they wanted to as long as I could choose the location for all future skirmishes. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

One of the most powerful ways to imitate Jesus in our marriages is by having an other-worldly lack of self-interest (Philippians 2:5-11). A profound statement that connects so well with the gospel is that if the gospel truly anchors us, we have nothing to fear, nothing to defend, nothing to lose, and nothing to hide. Isn’t Jesus like that with you? He is so secure in His relationship with you that any angry frustration from you or the other ways in which you express your disappointments to Him do not manage Him. He is not a manipulatable person, no matter how anyone responds to Him. We have said all sorts of sordid things to Him, but His soul is as sturdy as ever. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

The modeling of Christ and practicing repentance in your home are at the top of the list of what you both should be doing in your family relationships. Suppose you are not imitating Christ or repenting of sins. In that case, your marriage can only limp along with a Band-Aid approach while accelerating the accumulative frustration that leftover, hungover sinning does until death disrupts your one-flesh union. There is no way to circumvent the hard and humble way of going to your spouse, confessing your sin, asking for forgiveness, and encouraging your spouse to have a similar kind of humility that forgiveness granting exemplifies to the offender. You will know if you have authentically buried the hatchet if you can talk about what happened in non-punitive ways. There is no biblical reason for a Christian couple not to repent and reconcile. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

What were the practical things you did when you first won your spouse’s affections? Are you still doing them, or has the pace of life diverted your attention from your early marriage priorities? Reflect upon the giddy time in your relationship. Do you remember those carefree and silly days when it was just you two? Those days do not have to remain in your past. It was important to Lucia and me that we fight to keep the dating experience in our marriage experience. Because of God’s grace, we still enjoy giddy, silly, carefree, and fun times in our relationship; we are still buddies, always working not to let anything come between us, including our children, our work, our church, or our sin. But it was not always this way. We did lose focus in our marriage. The moorings of a stable marriage broke loose, and we drifted from the God-centered practicalities of our covenant. We needed a severe marital realignment. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

A few years ago, I was counseling a couple who were angry with each other. During our counseling, I asked the wife what was wrong with the marriage. Without hesitation or skipping a beat, she gave me a long, clear, and detailed list of all the things that were wrong with her husband. There was no question about it: he was a failure. Because I like to play fair, I turned to the lady’s husband and asked him about the state of their marriage. Without flinching or taking a breath, the husband gave me a list of all the things his wife had done wrong in their marriage. There was no question about it: she was a failure. Two people looking at the same thing had two completely different perspectives on how their marriage became such a dysfunctional mess. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

How do you positively or negatively contribute to your marriage? In broad categories, you can help in one of two ways, though you may contribute in both, depending on what is going on during any particular season of your marriage: You can motivate your spouse by grace. You can demotivate your spouse by sinful attitudes, words, or behaviors. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

The most significant problem hindering humble discipleship in a marriage is self-centeredness. Too many spouses demand and manipulate what they want while relegating their role of discipling their spouse to a tertiary consideration. Nothing will blow up a marriage quicker than a lack of other-centeredness, a mindset that is contrary to the gospel. Jesus set aside His desires to help broken people. Discipleship is every spouse’s responsibility. Christ took on the form of a servant to transform damaged individuals (Philippians 2:5-10). A large part of my marriage counseling is spent pressing this kind of gospel thinking into the minds of the couple in trouble. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

This devotion is in a three-part sequential order. The second step builds on the first, and the third relies upon the second. If you want to enjoy your marriage to the fullest, you must live out all three phases in the order presented. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

There is a good chance your spouse is not everything you hoped for in a marriage. Of course, neither are you. Imperfect people have a way of disappointing imperfect people. Perchance your spouse is difficult at times to live with, here are seven things for you to practically apply to yourself and marriage. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

Biff and Mable married 13 years ago. Most of those years were difficult. Mable struggles with insecurity, which has played out in their marriage by her keeping tabs on Biff. He calls her a nag. Her deeper insecurity is born out of something that Biff did not cause, which is why he sees her interrogations and accusations as a burden. Rather than discerning Mable as an opportunity to shepherd her, he responds by drifting farther from her, which puts their marriage in an unresolvable, circular trap. LLife Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

There are several ways to motivate your spouse to change. Here are six awful examples. As you go through this list, examine your heart to see which ones you tend to employ the most often when your spouse is not changing and maturing according to your expectations. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

There are at least two parts to every crisis: what is happening to you in real time and space and what is spiritually happening inside of you as the Lord matures you through the trial. The first part is usually discernible to anyone associated with the crisis. The second part is not as perceptible to the person in the crisis or those observing the crisis. Typically, when I am experiencing a crisis, I can articulate what I am going through and the strategies I hope to implement to overcome it. From a practical perspective, it is important to let others know what I’m going through and my plans to bring the crisis to a desirable conclusion. My friends care about me; they want to know what is going on in my life, what my crisis management plans are, and what they can do to help. Caring for others is normal and expected Christian deportment. Thus, articulating, as appropriate with your close companions, is a humble thing to do so your friends can pray and assist as you go through the crisis. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

Mable knocked on my counseling door. She was in tears. She had just finished her weekly women’s Bible study. The deep dive into God’s Word was exhilarating, and the fellowship with her friends was refreshing, but Mable was in tears. Quizzically, I could not connect her tears with her time with God and friends. It did not make sense to me. Then she asked, “Would you talk to my husband?” Seven syllables. It spoke volumes. Mable spent a few hours each Tuesday at their church building watching a video from a famous woman speaker on random Bible topics. At some point during these Bible studies, Mable started thinking that something was missing in her life. What she perceived as good—her Bible study—was becoming an unpleasant reminder of something unsatisfying about her marriage. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw

Physical intimacy with your spouse requires more from each spouse. Physical intimacy demands more from the couple. You can do many things as a married couple and even pretend to get along, but sex is the litmus test that tells the truth about the marriage. It is not unusual for a couple to attend church together for 30 years and be miserable in their marriage. Though they can pretend in the public domain, they cannot be fake in the privacy of their bedroom. Intimacy is either right, and your marriage is good, or it is not, and your marriage is in trouble. If your sexual life is struggling, it is because of sin. Sin separates, and the bedroom is the most prominent place where you will perceive this division. If you do not deal with sin biblically, the tectonic plates of your sex life will shift, and your marriage will be off-kilter. No matter what you do, you will be out of harmony with each other. Life Over Coffee exists to bring hope and help to you and others by creating resources that spark conversations for transformation. Helpful Links Would you please help keep our resources free by donating here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/donate/ Learn more about our training here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/mastermind-program-overview/ Connect with Us: Website: https://lifeovercoffee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallifeovercoffee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officiallifeovercoffee/ X: https://twitter.com/lifeovercoffee1 Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/LifeOverCoffee Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheLifeOverCoffee/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFvkS-BMYH2a_CKmqSHF1Hw