🔴ROCD Q&A 3: Attraction Confusion Cheating Fears | Retroactive Jealousy | Premarital Sex | Neediness

Welcome to the third installment of my Relationship OCD question and answer series, whre I dive into the struggles people face when ROCD invades your life.

PREMARITAL SEX, ROCD & GUILT: What do I do if I had premarital sex with the person I am dating and now I question if God wants us to marry? How do I stop looking for "signs" that this relationship is wrong?

ATTRACTION CONFUSION AND THE FEAR OF CHEATING: How do I handle intrusive thoughts about being attracted to other people? Why do I compulsively check my feelings during every interaction with the opposite sex? What's the difference between noticing someone is attractive vs. emotional infidelity?

RETROACTIVE JEALOUSY: How do I deal with the sexual past of the other person?

NEEDINESS vs ROCD: What's the difference between "cultural obsession" (infatuation/neediness) and OCD obsession?

DIFFICULT RELATIONSHIPS & BOUNDARIES: How do I handle relationship OCD when I'm also dealing with toxic family members?
Should I sever relationships or learn boundaries?
How can a mental health therapist with OCD navigate their own relationship struggles?

UNEQUALLY YOKED RELATIONSHIPS:
Should I marry someone who isn't a believer but supports my faith?
How do I handle guilt and shame from others about my relationship choice?
Is this a clear biblical issue or OCD making me uncertain?

LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS & PORN ADDICTION:
How does pornography addiction impact relationship OCD?
Why do I constantly check my feelings after a rejection or awkward moment?
How do I stop the neediness/avoidance cycle?

SHAME, STDs & FEELING UNLOVABLE:
How do I heal from sexual shame while carrying physical consequences?
Will anyone want to marry me once they know about my past?
How do I have honest conversations about my history without being defined by it?

Key Principles Covered:
✓ The dangerous pattern of looking for "signs" from God in your relationship decisions
✓ Why "God, if it's your will" prayers keep you stuck in unproductive cycles
✓ How to stop compulsively "checking" your feelings and attraction levels ✓ The difference between healthy discernment and OCD-driven fear
✓ Why perfectionists struggle with their romantic interest's past and imperfections ✓ Understanding anxious AND avoidant attachment in the same person
✓ How Christian perfectionism feeds relationship anxiety
✓ When to get engaged instead of prolonging dating timelines

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0:00 Intro
11:30 Mark Welcome / Info Update
13:58 How To Submit A Question To Mark
14:54 SuperChat - Is There ROCD that is not romantic?
16:48 Email - The Relationship OCD Lives are Helpful!!
24:21 Question - Premarital Sex & ROCD
31:48 Question - Someone Doesn't See A Future With Me??
35:07 Question - ROCD Difficult People and Being Disciplined By God??
48:58 DANCE BREAK
49:20 Question - ROCD, Atraction Confusion & Fear of Cheating??
56:36 Question - ROCD & Discernment??
1:01:05 Question - What About Spiritual Compatibility??
1:05:15 Question - Hard Time Getting Over A Past Relationship??
1:07:58 Question - Unequally Yoked??
1:12:40 DANCE BREAK
1:15:22 Retroactive Jealousy??
1:21:40 I Have An STD and I Feel Tainted for Someone to Love Me??
1:25:10 Question - OCD & Dating/Attraction ??
1:27:18 Question - ROCD Compulsive Checking & Feelings??
1:38:23 DANCE BREAK
1:41:16 Wrap Up