Welcome back to 90 in 90 - Day 18 - Complaining - The 1st of the 5C's of negativity

Welcome back to 90 in 90 - Day 18 - Complaining - The 1st of the 5C's of negativity

Day 18

It is important to get into the right frame of mind and the process of prayer sets the tone for me to look at myself honestly...... Prayer.... HP, please open my heart, mind and eyes, to see myself as a work in progress. Thank you for loving me exactly as I am, but too much to let me stay that way... guide my understanding to learn from the opportunity you are presenting to me.

Let's take the next 5 days and discuss the 5 C's of negativity - The 5 are, complaining, criticizing, concern, commiserating, and catastrophizing. These distractions are common ways I cope with stress, discomfort, or uncertainty, but left unchecked, they easily trap me in a negative mindset. Let’s break each one down and explore how they impact my life.

Complaining. We’ve all done it—it can feel good, if not just profoundly familiar, to vent when something’s not going my way. But for me, whether its laziness or lower emotional maturity, when I let complaining become a habit, it keeps me stuck in the problem.

Instead of seeking solutions or making changes, I end up focusing on the negative and reinforcing my dissatisfaction. The more I complain, the more I fuel feelings of frustration and powerlessness, and soon, my personal growth takes a back seat to the negativity I keep feeding. It’s important to express myself, but when it turns into constant complaints, it can block the progress I am trying to make in my life.

Calling it laziness or emotional immaturity seems a little harsh, but I have found it is usually one or the other for me... It is a simple fact that It is so much easier to tear something down than to build it, and that is the primary reason complaining is so easy for me to fall into. When I complain, I focus on the grievance issue that I have with whatever the issue is, a complete focus on the negative.

This is Why I practice looking for the benefit in the complaint and what can I do about it...

Complaining as a way of life is destructive, no one wants to be a garbage truck, hearing the complaints of a never satisfied person, and still there can be a reason that a complaint might arise... And looking to use anything negative to my advantage, I choose to focus on the benefit of a concern... to use the issue as a tool for growth, positive focus in action. Instead of just venting, verbalizing frustration, I choose to see my complaints or concerns as a real time signal that something might need to change.

Simply Complaining only highlights a problem or discomfort, and that’s an opportunity to explore a solution. I always want to know what anyone wants to do about a situation and ask if I can make it better. Rather than staying stuck in the negativity, I can ask, "What can I do about this?" It shifts the focus from the issue itself to finding a way to resolve it. Complaints don’t have to be destructive—they can be the first step in identifying what isn’t working and taking action to make things better. When I use them this way, they become an opportunity for progress and change.

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