64: The Lights are on but no-one's home

A Discourse on Narcissism

Narcissist Personality Disorder (NPD) is characterised as a pathology, which means the associated behaviours are common to all those who have it.

The target of the narcissist is subjected to attack. Each and every personal attack is intended to undermine the target's sense of self and well-being. There is a sense that one is constantly walking on egg-shells in order to not provoke the Narcissist.

The following is a list based on direct experience and knowledge of the dystopian and non-sensical world of the narcissist and the method.

Physical attacks of a violent nature.

Verbal attacks - shouting, haranguing, threatening.

Psychological attacks - name calling.

Attacks on family, friends and associates in an attempt to undermine relationships.

None of which has any basis in reality; hence comments like,

'The neighbours think you are an angry/crazy individual.’
‘Your friend is a paedophile. ‘
‘Your colleague is manipulating you and you can’t see it.’

Blatant lying - by design and by omission.

An inability to be reasonable - the individual is entirely devoid of impulse control, deliberately choosing to go with their emotional state instead of reason.

An inability to give a straight answer.

Justifying the bullying, cajoling and manipulating by falsely claiming, it’s for your own good.

Once the dust of their attacks settles, one comes to see that the individual is manifestly so lacking in any sense of self-worth, they have to attack others in order to make themselves feel better. This is why they are always seeking a rise from the target. Also referred to as ‘supply’ - they need to make the target feel angry and/or see them suffer in some way. After all, a healthy individual does not seek to cause harm, is capable of empathy and, in direct contrast to the narcissist, does not seek to control others. How could he when he values his own freedoms?