🔴ROCD Q&A 5: Perfectionism Kills Romance | Stuck in Limbo | Work on Myself Before Dating?

Join me in this live Q&A as I will be addressing a very specific battle of OCD that impacts relationships, especially romantic ones. It is often called relationship substantiation or relationship OCD. In this episode I talk about some common ROCD hangups that you need to be aware of and some helpful pathways to experience healing and freedom in your journey.

When Perfectionism Ruins Good Relationships: I spend significant time addressing someone who broke up, got back together multiple times, and is fixating on her boyfriend's height as the main barrier to commitment. I address how the perfectionism in ROCD finds any flaw to obsess over and would simply find another one if this were "fixed."

My Girlfriend's Overweight and I Can't Stop Obsessing: The Attraction Problem in ROCD: I tackle multiple questions about physical attraction issues, including someone struggling with their girlfriend being overweight, explaining how perfectionism creates "just right but never enough" thinking and how these same people would nitpick any partner they chose.

The 7 Relationship OCD Hang-Ups Keeping You Stuck in Limbo: I outline the core patterns: all roads lead back to "wrong person" obsession, perpetual non-committal states, distorted expectations of feelings, toxic comparison, the "is this OCD or real?" trap, external confirmation seeking, and chronic avoidance.

Stop Saying "I Need to Work on Myself Before Dating": Why This Keeps You Alone and Blocked from the Love You Desire: You repeatedly confronted the avoidance pattern of breaking up to "heal first" or work on issues alone, emphasizing that you actually learn to love and grow IN relationship proximity, not in isolation—comparing it to trying to learn to swim without getting in the water.

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0:00 Intro Music
16:20 Ways You Can Experience Help For ROCD
18:25 Melissa & Mark / Rumble Update
20:07 How To Submit A Question / Mark's New Book on ROCD Coming
21:18 Exhortation About ROCD
23:10 Mark Share on Common ROCD Hangups
43:52 Missing My Ex But He is Not Tall Enough
1:02:55 Confusion About ROCD
1:06:30 Will Mark Do A Teaching On Biblical Masculinity?
1:08:28 My Girlfriend Is Overweight & I'm Confused About Attraction
1:15:38 Can A Safe Person Still Be The Wrong Person?
1:17:22 What If I Don't Listen To God About My Relationship?
1:20:32 Is This a Rebound or ROCD?
1:23:01 Dance Break
1:26:45 How To Continue Learning About Gods Love?
1:31:05 Lack of Excitement
1:38:52 Distortion About Unequally Yoked
1:42:10 I Don't Love Him or I'm Lying to Him?
1:45:00 Dance Break
1:47:30 I'm Afraid I'm Codependent and Have Anxious Attachment Issues
1:56:00 Dating A New Believer?
2:03:20 What's ROCD and What is NOT?
2:06:25 Wrap Up