Why therapy is so bad for you

In this video, I sit down with Jonathan, a seasoned Marriage and Family Therapist, to discuss what sets him apart in the field of couples therapy. Jonathan shares his unique approach to working with couples, particularly those facing mixed-agenda situations where one partner is leaning in and the other is leaning out. We explore his critique of traditional therapy models, like the Gottman method and Emotionally Focused Therapy, and why he believes a solution-focused approach can make a bigger impact. Jonathan emphasizes the importance of triaging relationships early on, much like an ER doctor determining the most urgent needs, to decide if both partners are willing to engage in the process.

Jonathan also introduces his "marital inventory" method, inspired by Bill Doherty's discernment counseling. This process helps couples take a deeper look at their relationship, evaluating the good and the bad to determine whether there's enough “gas in the tank” to work on repairing it. He explains the challenges therapists face when couples remain locked in their pain and how some therapy practices, whether intentionally or not, focus too heavily on unresolved conflicts. This can keep couples in therapy longer without making real progress, something Jonathan is determined to avoid by helping clients move forward efficiently.

If you’ve ever wondered why couples therapy sometimes feels stuck, Jonathan’s insights will resonate. His focus on building creativity, problem-solving, and imagination within relationships instead of amplifying emotional pain sets his approach apart. Watch to learn how his methods challenge the status quo and offer real solutions for couples looking to heal and grow. Don’t forget to subscribe for more conversations like this.

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