Married on Purpose - 7 Steps to a Better Vision for Your Marriage - 213

If you ask a Christian couple if God put them together, they will almost always respond with something like, “Yes, we believe God put us together.” Then, if you ask them why God put them together, they will rarely be able to give you the answer. But there is an answer. Having that answer will take every married couple to another level in their relationship.

After Michelle and I had been married for around ten years, we finally had a good marriage. The Lord had performed a miracle for us, and we valued our relationship.

One year when we attended the XO Marriage Conference at Gateway Church in Southlake, Texas we heard about a pastor that every year he and his wife took four or five days and went away alone together to talk and pray about their relationship and their children.

They would wake up and take the entire morning until noon talking and praying about every single area of their relationship. They began their vision retreat by surrendering their marriage and family to God and praying for the Lord to reveal His will to them. Then they talked about every area of their relationship, including sex. When they were in agreement about a particular area they were discussing, they then wrote down their decision as God’s vision for their marriage for the next year.

Here is what Proverbs 29:18 says about vision: “Where there is no vision, the people are unrestrained, but happy is he who keeps the law” (NASB).

Couples often argue because they have differing perspectives on various aspects of their lives, such as their children, finances, priorities, and sex. These differing visions can lead to division within the relationship. If a couple cannot agree on a unified vision for their marriage, discord is bound to occur.

Every marriage needs a vision. We discuss that on this week's episode.