Do You Want to Heal or Just Be Right?

🛑 If your goal is to ‘win’ rather than heal, therapy won’t work. It’s about understanding, not blame.

Many couples step into therapy or conflict resolution with one mission: to prove their partner wrong. They don’t want healing; they want a referee to confirm they were the victim and their partner was the villain.

But relationships don’t thrive on winners and losers—they thrive on understanding.

🔹 Are you listening to understand or just waiting for your turn to argue?
🔹 Do you replay past fights in your head, gathering "evidence" to prove your point?
🔹 Are you more invested in defending yourself than fixing the actual problem?

If the focus is on making your partner the problem, you both lose. Growth happens when the goal shifts from “Who’s right?” to “How can we fix this together?”

Therapy and healing aren’t about scoring points. They’re about bridging the gap. Are you willing to meet in the middle? Drop a 🙌 if you’re ready for real change!

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