Changing Your Natural Inclinations - Jewish HaShkafa (95)

The excuse of "I was born this way" is surely not going to create peace in any home, nor will one be happy throughout his/her life with the outcome of their inclinations. Yet changing what we were born with seems futile at best in a society that empowers the weakness to remain weak.

The Chazon Ish has told us about learning Mussar, and tonight he will uncover why some people don't change even after hearing mussar lectures and reading the books they are about, while others become tzadikim and tzadikot. Enjoy.

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0:00:00 Introduction
0:03:25 Advice from Torah: Everything is in it; FAQs easy to find
0:05:12 Common issues, specific advice, potential barriers
0:05:53 Torah learning: approach & application matter, not IQ/intellect
0:06:53 A lecture for your success in serving Hashem
0:08:02 To motivate change, learn its benefits
0:08:17 Soul's refining light (Chazon Ish)
0:09:04 Degree of radiance for soul's refining light (Pessimistic thinking)
0:13:13 Changing natural inclination: Soul's refining light, key aspect in your development
0:13:52 Don't fight darkness with sticks—only way is with creating more light (i.e., Soul's refining light) (R. Kachlon)
0:15:17 Varied efficacy in Mussar study among students—Degree of radiance for soul's refining light (Chazon Ish)
0:16:29 Society Tells People Bad things are good: 50th level of Tumah
0:18:04 Mitzvot: Angel, more good, more Soul's refining light vs Sins: demon, more evil, Klipah (Avos 4:2)
0:20:35 Discrepancies in students—Thickness of Klipah
0:22:29 More perfected neshama needs less repetition; materialistic needs more
0:22:52 How can one tell whether they are improving or not? (R. Kachlon)
0:26:40 Iggeret HaGra: If children use swear words...
0:28:15 People can't see, but can sense their Klippah
0:29:07 Discrepancies in students (cont.)
0:30:44 Learning and teaching Mussar, but not improving & even worsening
0:34:42 Emulate Hillel: Don't get angry (Shabbos 31)
0:42:54 Hillel to the skull (Succah 53a, Avos)
0:45:29 Quick to give ineffective rebukes & no self-improvement
0:48:36 Always learn with a chavruta, except Mussar (R. Kachlon)
0:51:30 Emulate Hillel: Don't get angry (cont.)
0:53:29 Addictions
0:54:21 Quality over quantity: Learn Mussar with Kavanah
0:57:35 The Strategy of The Alter of Novardok: ft. R. Yaakov Galinsky & The Steipler Gaon
1:04:46 Learn Mussar Deeply: Don't merely be a bookworm
1:06:19 Not a Shidduch Crisis, A Middot Crisis (A Delusional Mindset)
1:13:47 Hillel to the skull (cont.)
1:14:42 Looking at everyone else's problems, except oneself
1:15:43 Kippah dims soul's refining light—Mussar removes Klippah
1:16:19 Klippah created due to sins, addictions, inclinations person has turned into natural
1:16:33 Open up for me an opening like the eye of a needle... (Shir HaShirim Rabbah 5:2)
1:18:14 All for the Boss: R. Yaakov Yosef Herman (Pure Tears, Nebuchadnezzar)
1:23:34 No Pure Tears due to personal agenda/bias
1:25:47 Breaking personal biases
1:28:07 Internalize Mussar for personal growth, before helping others
1:30:13 Always learn with a chavruta, except Mussar (cont.)
1:31:35 The thickness of one's Klippah affects the impact of Mussar
1:32:06 Mar Zutra the Pious's insight (Bava Metzia 24a)
1:36:02 Without Mussar acceptance—thicker Klipah—more afflictions from Hashem
1:37:11 A woman's Teshuvah Journey: Plateaued growth—Yom kippur Vidui—broken Klippah
1:44:59 Conclusion
1:51:09 The Message: A man acts for himself, not others (Baal Shem Tov)
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Changing Your Natural Inclinations - Jewish HaShkafa (95)