Why Your Child's Defiance Triggers You (How to Break the Cycle)

Why does your child’s defiance trigger you so deeply?
If backtalk, yelling, or refusal to cooperate instantly sets you off…this episode is for you.

In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we explore the real reason your child’s behavior feels personal. From trauma-informed parenting insights to nervous system regulation, we help you understand how unresolved childhood wounds—like authoritarian rules, emotional neglect, and religious shame—can create overreactions to your child’s independence.

You’ll learn:

– Why your child’s defiance is not a personal attack

– How power struggles develop (and how to avoid them)

– The connection between childhood repression and adult triggers

– How to regulate your nervous system during parenting conflicts

– Tools to set calm, connected boundaries without fear or control

Whether you're dealing with toddler tantrums or teenage pushback, you’ll walk away with practical tools to break the cycle of reactivity and start parenting from a place of safety, clarity, and connection.

– Resources: 
Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past
Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching
Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session
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