Is it ok for Your Spouse to Control You? - 239

Think boundaries are barriers to intimacy? Think again. In this week's episode, we dive deep into why boundaries are not just good for marriage—they're essential to God's design for relational flourishing.

Drawing from scripture and personal experience, we unpack how most couples struggle with boundaries due to fear of conflict or appearing selfish. What makes this especially challenging in marriage is the vulnerability that comes with complete commitment. As one of us shares, "When you're dating, you overlook things because you're so in love. But marriage demands more honesty about our needs and limits."

The heart of healthy boundaries lies in understanding individual responsibility before God. While marriage unites two people as one flesh, each spouse remains accountable for their own actions, emotions, and spiritual growth. This creates a beautiful paradox: by honoring our separate responsibilities, we actually create deeper unity.

We explore the critical difference between supporting your spouse and carrying their emotional load. True support says, "I'm here with you," not "I'll do it for you." This distinction protects both partners from resentment, enabling authentic connection rather than codependency.

Perhaps most powerfully, we reveal how boundaries in marriage mirror God's own nature. Just as God establishes moral, relational, and spiritual boundaries throughout scripture, our marital boundaries reflect His character of love, truth, and wisdom. These aren't arbitrary restrictions but loving safeguards that protect what's sacred.

Has your marriage been missing these divine guardrails? Join us as we continue this vital conversation in the coming weeks, exploring specific types of boundaries and practical ways to implement them. And stay tuned for our upcoming series "Marriage Reset: How to Become Soulmates When You Fell Like Roommates"—because every couple deserves more than mere coexistence.