Why Setting Boundaries Around Verbal Abuse Might Make Things Worse—At First

You’ve tried to avoid conflict.
You’ve stayed quiet to “keep the peace.”
You’ve told yourself it’s not that bad.

But verbal abuse is abuse.
And having zero tolerance for it doesn’t make you dramatic.
It makes you healthy.

Standing up for yourself might not make things easier in the short term.
It might actually stir things up.
Just like a toddler throws a louder tantrum the first time you stop giving in, an unhealthy spouse may escalate when you stop accepting their disrespect.

But don’t mistake that escalation for failure.
It’s the resistance that always shows up before real change is possible.

So leave the room.
End the conversation.
Step outside.
Say:
“I’m willing to talk about this—but not if you’re going to speak to me like that.”

You’re not being cruel.
You’re creating clarity.

Because silence may avoid a fight.
But boundaries are what invite respect.

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