Starve The Fire.

Ignoring Slander, Libel, and Harassment: A Strategic Approach.

1. Understanding the Nature of the Attack.

When a small but loud group of people targets you with slander, libel, or harassment—particularly with accusations as serious as paedophilia—they are deliberately trying to provoke a reaction. They want to:

Make you angry.
Push you into breaking the law (assault, threats).
Feed their own content cycle with your reactions.
Reinforce their own false narrative.

The key to dismantling their power lies in recognising that the real battle is not about the truth—it’s about controlling your response.

2. Why Reacting Physically or Aggressively Will Backfire.

Your son is right. A physical confrontation may feel satisfying in the moment, but it would:

Instantly shift the focus away from their misconduct to your actions.
Give them evidence that “you are dangerous” or “unhinged.”
Potentially result in criminal charges that they can then weaponise against you in the same narrative they’ve been spinning for years.

Even verbally reacting in rage online can be clipped, twisted, and used as “proof” of guilt.

3. Why Ignoring is Hard but Powerful.

Ignoring doesn’t mean you approve or accept what they say—it means you are refusing to feed their fire.

When you starve them of:

Your emotional energy.
Your attention.
Your audience’s oxygen for the drama.

…you begin to weaken their control over the conversation.

4. Concrete Steps for Handling This.

Here’s a practical framework to follow:

A. Emotional Management

Pause before reacting — Give yourself a 24-hour rule before replying to anything online about you.
Channel anger into private outlets — Talk to trusted friends, write in a private journal, or exercise to burn off rage.
Remind yourself: They thrive on your pain. Every time you resist reacting, you win.

B. Documentation

Keep a secure record of every defamatory comment, post, or video.
Store screenshots with dates and URLs.
If things escalate legally, this record is gold.

C. Control the Narrative—Selectively

Don’t try to refute every lie—they want you to do that.
If you do speak publicly, be calm, concise, and dignified.
Share your story in your own time and on your own terms, without using their names (this avoids more legal mess).

D. Separate Audience from Trolls

Strengthen relationships with your supporters—don’t let trolls dictate your content.
Engage with positive comments more than the negative ones.
Block and mute liberally.

E. Legal Considerations

You can pursue defamation action if the evidence is strong enough and you have legal resources.
If not, focus on outlasting them—most smear campaigns burn out when they fail to get a satisfying reaction.

5. The Psychological Game.

Bullies rely on three things:

Reaction — Anger, shouting, threats, anything they can use against you.
Reputation Damage — Making you appear unstable or guilty.
Isolation — Trying to cut you off from your support system.

By ignoring them strategically:

You rob them of reaction.
You demonstrate calmness, which builds credibility over time.
You keep your focus on your own projects and relationships, making them irrelevant.

6. Final Mindset Shift.

Think of it like this:

They are parasites.
You are the host.
Starve them, and they die.
Feed them with anger and confrontation, and they multiply.

The true victory isn’t proving them wrong in their eyes—it’s living a good life, visible to the people who matter, while they shrivel into irrelevance.