Why Scorekeeping is Killing Your Marriage (And the Agape Fix That Actually Works)

Are you tired of feeling like your marriage is running on debt instead of devotion? It's time to retire the scoreboard and build real love in your relationship. In this eye-opening episode, I'm revealing how to step into agape love - choosing your spouse's highest good without condition.

“Scorekeeping turns lovers into litigators”- Brent Dowlen

The Four Pillars of Agape Love
• Discover why covenant identity is the foundation of a thriving marriage
• Learn how self-governance transforms the way you show up for your partner
• Explore the power of creative service in anticipating your spouse's needs
• Understand why radical safety is non-negotiable for deep connection

From Scorekeeping to Soulmates
• Master the art of appreciation with three powerful scripts
• Uncover the hidden cost of transactional intimacy (and how to avoid it)
• Learn why your health is a crucial act of love towards your spouse

This isn't about becoming a doormat or losing yourself. It's about fundamentally shifting how you approach love and commitment. I'm sharing insights from my own 24-year marriage journey, proving that small, consistent choices can lead to extraordinary transformation.

Don't miss this opportunity to revolutionize your relationship. Tune in now and discover how to stop keeping receipts and start building a marriage that thrives on unconditional love.

Challenge: Choose two practices from this episode and commit to them for 90 days. Share your commitment in the comments – let's support each other in creating radical marriages!

Referenced Episodes:
• The 5-Minute Marriage Reset: Calm Escalating Arguments Fast
• Why Most Tough Conversations Fail (And the 10-Step Fix That Actually Works)

Episode Page: Https://www.BrentDowlen.com/Agape

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Time Stamps
• 00:00:00 - Introduction: The Problem with Transactional Love
• 00:05:30 - The Four Pillars of Agape Love
• 00:15:45 - Practical Scripts and Rituals for Better Connection
• 00:25:00 - Intimacy Without Transaction
• 00:35:15 - Health as an Act of Love
• 00:45:30 - The 90-Day Experiment to Transform Your Marriage

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