The Myths of Masculinity and Motherhood with Vanessa Bennett

In 1992, John Gray released “Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus.” It was important work then. It is just as (if not more so) important today. Why do we as men, struggle to understand what women are thinking and saying? And why do women struggle just as much in understanding us?

My guest today, Vanessa Bennet, author of “The Motherhood Myth,” and psychotherapist, sheds some light on the reasons, including an inside look at what women are thinking and why. Today, we talk about the misunderstandings between men and women, why women aren’t interested in being with you as one of their children, why women are looking for leadership and respect from men, what is healthy womanhood and manhood, why safety is a key factor in attractiveness for women, and what it really means when a woman says, “I want a man who is vulnerable.”

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 — Intro & Costa Rica setup
02:02 — Miscommunication Between Men & Women
09:17 — Shadow Work & Shame
13:06 — Myths of Motherhood
18:07 — Finding the Middle (Pendulum Theory)
21:36 — Rupture & Repair in Relationships
30:10 — Choosing vs Needing: Desire & Partnership
33:06 — Leadership vs Dominance (What Women Want)
42:48 — Don’t Fix — Build Competence & Autonomy
50:26 — Safety & Parenting (why reliability matters)
59:43 — Preemptive Communication & Vulnerability
1:00:39 — Integrity & Follow-Through (why actions matter)

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