How To Stop Defending Yourself To Your Adult Child

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How To Stop Defending Yourself To Your Adult Child// You don’t have to defend your worth to be understood. 💛
So many moms of adult children fall into the same trap I did — explaining, justifying, and replaying conversations in your head trying to make them “see” your heart. But defensiveness doesn’t bring peace… it keeps you stuck in shame.
In today’s video, I’ll show you how to break free from the exhausting cycle of self-defense and step into calm, strength, and truth instead.
We’ll walk through:
1️⃣ How to recognize the real reason you get defensive (it’s not what you think)
2️⃣ How to reframe responsibility without taking all the blame
3️⃣ How to respond from peace instead of pain
4️⃣ How to create your own “defense-free zone” and finally breathe again
If you’re tired of walking on eggshells or trying to prove you’re a good mom, this message is for you. You can be at peace — even if your child isn’t ready to understand yet.
💛 Ready for your next step?
If this resonated with you and you’re ready to stop living in defense mode, I invite you to a Heart-to-Heart Consultation — a guided conversation where we’ll look at what kind of support could finally bring you the peace, strength, and clarity you’ve been praying for.
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🙏 You are not alone.
Even Jesus didn’t defend Himself when accused — He stood in truth and peace. You can, too.

0:00 - How To Stop Defending Yourself To Your Adult Child
0:45 - Understanding the Need for Self-Defense in Parenting
02:52 Reframing Responsibility in Relationships
05:20 Responding Calmly Instead of Controlling
07:17 Creating a Defense-Free Zone for Healing

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