🔴 Christian Perfectionism | Pursuing Creative Passions | Toxic Marriage and Roommate Syndrome

Welcome to another Sunday Live broadcast where we dive deep into one of the most critical issues facing marriages today: the silent epidemic of emotional disconnection. In this episode, my wife Melissa and I have a raw, honest conversation about why so many couples are living like roommates instead of intimate partners—and what you can do about it. I'm witnessing something alarming in my ministry work: husbands and wives who rarely speak about matters of the heart, families sitting together in restaurants without any meaningful conversation, and couples who've convinced themselves that "not fighting" equals a healthy marriage. The truth is, we're becoming relationally and emotionally dormant, and technology is playing a bigger role in this than we want to admit.

I also address the plague of Christian perfectionism and spend some extended time walking through pursuing your passion of creative art.

What We Cover in This Broadcast:

Christian Perfectionism: "Just Right But Never Enough" - Deep dive into how perfectionism infiltrates our faith walk, from preoccupation with salvation to obsessing over spiritual routines, and why the "I was miraculously healed" mindset can be harmful

The Disobedience Trap - Why we need to stop labeling every struggle or transition as "disobedience" and learn to see our journey through the lens of God's grace and learning over time

The Church Lady and the Church Gentleman go out on a date and I got the report from the restaurant manager on what happened!

Pursuing Creative Passions Without Shame - Addressing the fear, doubt, and father wounds that come up when stepping into creative work (music, writing, art, etc.) and practical wisdom for turning your passion into sustainable work

The Roommate Syndrome Crisis - Why couples are losing emotional intimacy and settling for surface-level coexistence instead of deep relational connection

Practical Tools for Restoration - The eye-to-eye prayer practice that transformed our marriage and can transform yours

OCD, ROCD, and Marriage - Addressing how obsessive-compulsive patterns impact relationships and the path toward healing for both spouses

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0:00 Intro
7:20 How To Find Freedom
9:55 Why We Love The South
13:30 Is Christian Perfectionism Influencing You?
27:30 The Church Lady & Gentlemen Went On A Date
40:40 Greet The Chat
44:10 Fear & Doubt About Pursuing Creative Art
1:01:35 Marine Veteran With Severe PTSD & ROCD and It's Impacted His Wife
1:12:20 My Husband Has Intense OCD & It's Impacting Our Marriage Negatively
1:25:56 Marriage with a Christian Turned Athiest