Why We Fall for the Wrong People - Jessica Baum – Podcast Recap

This podcast recap is from a long-form discussion centered on the themes of safety, attachment, and healing emotional wounds, featuring Jessica Baum, promoting her book "Safe." The conversation begins with a brief advertisement for merchandise before shifting into a deep exploration of psychological concepts, including the definition of safety, secure attachment, and the role of vulnerability in relationships. A significant portion of the dialogue focuses on how childhood patterns and trauma are unconsciously recreated in adult relationships—confusing familiarity with safety and intensity with intimacy—and the challenges, particularly for men, in being vulnerable to achieve genuine connection, highlighting that healing is relational, not solitary. They also discuss practical tools for co-regulation and the importance of "rupture and repair" in building stronger, more intimate bonds.