The Real Reason You Don’t Feel Respected—And How to Fix It

Everyone wants more respect in their marriage.
But here’s the part we rarely talk about: respect doesn’t grow by demanding it. It grows by modeling it.

And that starts with turning the lens around.

Not What does my spouse need to change?
But What do I need to look at inside myself?

Because the only part of this marriage you actually control is you.

Are there ways you speak sharply?
Ways you shut down?
Ways you minimize, dismiss, or withdraw?
Ways you ignore your own needs until resentment builds?

Healing these things isn’t about taking all the blame—it's about taking ownership of the only territory that actually belongs to you: your inner world.

When you do the work—when you address your wounds, your defensiveness, your patterns—everything in the relationship shifts. Respect becomes reciprocal, not forced. It becomes a response, not a requirement.

Is it hard to feel like you’re the only one trying? Absolutely.
But if you’re choosing to stay in this marriage, then your power lies in focusing on what you can change, not what you can’t.

And change always begins with you.

If you're ready to do that inner work with guidance, structure, and support, I’d love to help you take the next step.

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