Why Shared Values Matter More Than Shared Chemistry

When a man says — through his words and his actions — that he wants to truly know a woman, all of her, not just her body, that’s rare. And it speaks volumes about his character. A man who values a woman’s mind, her story, her faith, her integrity… is a man who understands the sacred weight of intimacy.

But here’s the part many women overlook:
If he or she is trying to speed that process up — physically, emotionally, or relationally — you're not aligned. Not because either of you is a "bad" person, but because you don’t share the same values.

Pace-setting in a relationship isn’t just about physical boundaries. It’s about emotional and spiritual boundaries too. It’s about two people agreeing that intimacy grows best when it grows slowly, honestly, and intentionally, and within Godly boundaries. When values don’t align at the foundation, the relationship becomes lopsided before it even begins.

A man who wants a real relationship will move with purpose — not pressure. And a woman who shares those values will honor the pace instead of rushing past it.

And if you’re married and struggling with mismatched values, mismatched pace, or mismatched expectations, that’s exactly what we work through inside Marriage in Bloom, my six-month marriage recovery intensive.
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