Modern Dating is a DISASTER — Evolutionary Psychologist Explains Why

Evolutionary psychologist Geoffrey Miller joins Rav on the Illusion of Consensus for a deep exploration of Gen Z’s crisis of sex, dating, and relationships, unpacking why modern courtship is failing and how evolutionary instincts still shape today’s mating market. Miller breaks down the rise of incel culture, the psychology of attraction, the impact of dating apps, and practical strategies young men can use to build confidence, social skills, and real-world romantic success. This conversation moves from societal trends to actionable insights on approaching women, navigating rejection, and understanding human mating psychology with clarity and honesty. A candid and highly informative session with Geoffrey Miller on how young people can thrive in a transformed romantic landscape.

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00:00 – Intro
06:50 – Gen Z’s Sexual Recession Unpacked
13:25 – The Rise of Queer Identity and Social Categories
20:40 – What Intelligence Really Signals in Dating
27:55 – Phones, Isolation, and the Collapse of Social Skills
35:10 – Dating Apps and the New Mating Inequality
42:25 – How Rejection Creates Modern Incel Psychology
49:40 – Low-Stakes Flirting and Building Social Confidence
56:55 – Approaching Women Without Creeping Them Out
1:04:10 – Standards, Risk, and Smarter Short-Term Choices