Why Cancelling Plans Feels Better Than Going

Have you ever cancelled plans and felt immediate relief?

That feeling isn’t laziness or antisocial behavior.
It’s energy conservation.

When the nervous system is overcommitted, social obligations can feel heavy instead of nourishing. Cancelling removes the pressure to perform, explain, or push beyond capacity — and the body responds by relaxing.

Relief is a signal. It means your system needed rest more than interaction in that moment.

If cancelling plans makes you breathe easier, nothing is wrong with you.
Your body is choosing regulation over depletion.

An Ego Ease reminder: honoring your energy is not rejection — it’s self-care.