STB157 | BSE | Conflict: Anger E1 | Cultivate Relationships

BIBLE SCHOOL EDITION — Nathan and Pastor Scott begin a two-part conversation on conflict by reframing anger through the lens of Scripture. Rather than suppressing anger or labeling it as a sin, this episode examines indignation as a morally neutral response that reveals our motives and how we respond to offense. Together, they unpack how unresolved anger creates space for the enemy, how misapplied Bible verses fuel control instead of maturity, and why learning to process anger rightly is essential for healthy relationships, leadership, and spiritual growth. *Please note, this discussion takes place in two episodes. This is episode one.*

— EPISODE CHAPTERS —
(00:00) Irreverent Humor and Honest Humanity
The episode opens with unscripted humor and cultural banter, setting a relational tone that contrasts with the weight of the topic ahead. This opening reminds listeners that conflict and anger are discussed best within real, human connection.
(15:41) Be Angry, But Do Not Sin
The teaching begins by examining Ephesians 4.26–27. Anger is defined as neutral, while sin is determined by how it’s expressed or stewarded. Misusing this passage to force resolution is challenged in favor of heart-level responsibility.
(39:26) Indignation, Control, and the Heart
The conversation turns to indignation as a shared biblical word used of both Jesus and his opponents. The distinction isn’t necessarily the behavior, but rather, the underlying motivation — a righteous response versus self-righteousness or unrighteousness.
(46:46) Smoldering Anger vs Explosive Anger
The conversation turns to two unhealthy, unrighteous, and self-righteous expressions of anger. Smoldering anger hides beneath passivity and avoidance, while explosive anger surfaces through outbursts and control. Both avoid honest processing and set the stage for deeper conflict if left unresolved.

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• Episode Notes
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• Bookshelf | UnLove
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• The Habit Tree
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• The Freedom Booklet
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• Lacey's Story with Anger
https://cultivaterelationships.com/small-group-videos/cwc-laceys-story/
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