Stop Looking at Her for Worth. Look in the Mirror.

Your value doesn't come from your wife's opinion of you.

If this is what you've grown within yourself, you will always be the needy, people pleaser who morphs who he is to get appreciation. And that is repulsive to a woman.

This is caused by a lack of personal leadership. No standards for health, discipline, integrity, purpose.

A man that has no identity will seek validation anywhere he can get it.

Many wives will be that person for their husbands.

Then these husbands learn to depend on validation to feel whole.

When they don't get it, they feel empty. Which causes repulsive character traits, which causes the wife to withdraw, which causes resentment in you, and the cycle continues.

It's a miserable existence for a man.

Learn to lead yourself once again and stop chasing validation. Learn to seek it from the man in the mirror.