A Brave Choice (November 2025)

Andrew claims that “a friend” helped him make the brave choice to allow his caregivers to wash his “toes, toenails, feet, private area, butt, and butt crack, and back.”

But the rest he can do himself.

Notes:
0:09 - “This video is something I have to take a number 2 on [...]”
3:30 – Andrew complains about the fact that he can't help himself from going on Reddit / Facebook / YouTube and watching videos / reading what other people are saying about him. Says he needs someone to help him not do it, then hints that it's part of one of his 'repetitive behaviors' connected to autism.
6:52? - Claims he has “a friend” helping him.
10:10 approx – more mentions of this “friend”.
Direct transcript 14:30 - Everybody can wipe their ass, right? Or should be able to. If you can move the mo- your hand back there. People say, "Oh, that's just good enough, right?" That's why people don't want to help me because I can move my hand there. The problem is I'm not effectively removing all the poop causing me rashes The same with wiping in the front of my area when I pee my diaper. When people do that, they expect me to be able to do that on my own. And then I have to be in a rash like I am. So, and then I get frustrated, irritable, and then I get upset and then people are upset with me [...]”
He then makes it sound like his “friend” convinced him to bravely accept letting his caregivers clean all the gross parts of him (but the rest he can do himself).
Direct transcript 15:38 - So, my thing is I'm going to have to choose between rashes or having someone help me with that. And you know something? I think my friend is right. I got to have them do that 100%.
I will let them wash my toes in, uh, you know, 100%. I will have them wash my toenails 100%. I will have them help me with my feet 100%. I will have them wash my private area and butt and butt crack 100% and back 100%. The rest of my body will be my responsibility to clean because I can do those on my own.
Direct transcript 18:14 - Okay, I'm going to have them check on me every hour to see if I'm wet. And if I'm wet, I go get their help to change and wipe and clean up. I'm setting boundaries and I'm saying that you show up to work, your job to work. Your job is to take care of me and my needs. You're not here to be my friend. You're not here to play on your phone or go places when you're supposed to be taking care of me, because that's what's been happening with me. People have been pushing me around, and then I have to deal with the change when something happens.
20:00 – Andrew says that “next month I have a new representative payee” as he is taking “control” away from his father.
He then babbles about “accepting” that he needs to wear diapers.
Direct transcript 22:51 - I'm just simply a person who has a disability who's unable to do these things on my own. It is not something I can suddenly outgrow or fix. I'm accepting my issues. My limitations - and my limitations include accepting that I need diapers. You know, my doctor told me the other day at my last appointment with Dad on the phone that I have to accept that I need to wear diapers and stop refusing to wear diapers, and accept that I need people to wipe me and wash me. And people need to accept that I need that help, and they’ve got to help me.

Original title: I see what is causing me some problems, it starts with boundaries and standing firm for myself [Ph8SuwXzgCs]
Recorded by Andrew Ditch on: November 11, 2025 (Presumed, no date visible)
Uploaded by Andrew Ditch on: November 11, 2025 at 6:26 PM