How to change your limiting beliefs - breaking free from unhealthy thought patterns

We all have unhealthy thought patterns that play out when we are stressed. In this video we address what an unhealthy pattern looks like, how you can identify one and four great tools to break free from a thought pattern that doesn't serve you.

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Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
0:17 What are unhealthy thought patterns?
0:44 How to identify limiting beliefs
1:47 Tools to break free from unhealthy thought patterns
1:55 Affirmations
3:11 Ask better questions
4:57 Meditation
6:23 Tapping

Learn tapping using this video
https://youtu.be/GJeFM4_7fXo

There's a bunch of unhealthy thought patterns negatively impacting you including criticising ourselves, exaggerating the negative, wishing we had done something different, using the phrase "I should've" and perfectionism.
All this causes mental fatigue and greater anxiety.
It's often caused by a lack of self-acceptance and lack of self-love.
But how do you catch them out?
It's about noticing what happens in your body. Your body identifies something is wrong long before your brain catches up. When you feel back ache, butterflies in your stomach, a head ache or some discomfort in your body, ask yourself what is creating the anxiety or stress. Writing things down helps to identify this. Are you wishing you could change the past? Wishing you could change someone? wishing you could change yourself? wishing for a particular future? Notice if you have had these thoughts before.
Observation of your thoughts give you the opportunity to shake out of the pattern.
Once you identify the pattern you can use different tools to break free from it.
1. Affirmation - in your quiet time use positive statements to train your brain to think positively. Say things like "I am who I am and I accept all of me" or "I love myself" or "I accept myself".
If you are uncomfortable saying these phrases then say "I am open to..." or "I am ready to..." or "I am willing to..." like "I am open to loving myself" or "I am willing to accept myself". This primes your mind and gets your subconscious mind to open up to loving yourself and accepting yourself and valuing yourself.
Training your mind to think positively reduces the intensity when you are having an unhealthy thought pattern session.
2. Ask better questions.
Instead of asking yourself negative questions like "What's wrong with me?" or "What went wrong?" or "Why didn't I do..."
When wallowing in your pain learn to ask better questions that life you up and make you feel good. Ask "what did work about that?" or "What helped me in that situation?"
When thinking about the future ask "Why" questions. "Why will everything work out?" or "Why will things work in my favour?" or "Why will I feel better about that?"
Your mind loves solving puzzles so it will work her time to answer these great questions. This is a great retraining your brain trick.
3. Meditation
The next tool is part of your brain gym toolkit already. Just as you work out your muscles so you can carry heavy boxes or participate in life more fully, you can use meditation to control your thoughts.Meditation is a gym work out for the mind. It strengthens your ability to focus. You can focus on a candle, or a humming noise or your breath. Focus on anything monotonous for 15 minutes. This trains your subconscious mind to believe that you have control. So when you are spiralling in a whirlwind of negative thought patterns you have the mental control to snap out of negativity and deliberately focus on affirmations or better questions, or even to stop thinking at all! Just clear your mind.
4. Tapping
The 4th tool is tapping. It's easy, effective and works super well when you are stuck. It snaps you out of dark places into a mode of possibility. Here is an example of tapping for an unhealthy thought pattern "I'm ugly" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6qJEZHIZiM