Been Ghosted?

Ghosting is a cultural word that has sprung into use in this cultural climate where we cancel each other, devaluing each other for various reasons. Ghosting to me is being devalued by someone else, being treated like you are not viable, you are not visible. It is one person ignoring another person, treating them like they are not good enough, it is an elitist, self-righteous attitude towards another person. Ghosting isolates people and is used by people when they want to shun you from relating with them and usually comes out of an exclusivity, a snootiness of spirit that speaks with an attitude of: I am better than you, you are less than desirable to me. I have seen whole families who act this way, who care less what they do to other people’s hearts as they ghost people with an elite exclusivity, a snobby way of living that excludes with a self-righteous stank. Ghosters are people who don’t give other people permission to be in their presence. The worse part of it, is that most of the people I know who ghost others, call themselves Christians. This is not Christianity. How can you be a Christian when you are so rudely careless with other people’s hearts? I have to come to grips with this myself, because I have ghosted others in one way or another, especially when I want to run from conflict. But I have also been ghosted by other’s exclusivity, where they did not want to talk to me and they ignored me saying hello and walked right by as if I never spoke a word. The main commandment of Christianity is to love. (John 15:12-17) Ghosting is not love, excluding and exclusivity of others is not a reflection of Jesus. Jesus never devalued other people. If there was truth that needed to be spoken, Jesus did not run from it, He faced it head on and spoke truth in love. Jesus lived a life of compassion adding value to everyone He crossed life-path’s with and eventually gave His life for us, adding eternal value to our lives. Jesus Ghosted No One! Because of Jesus, we can live among “the rocks” and bloom in His life. We can be like Jesus as we depend upon Him to flesh us out and help us live out of His Kingdom precepts. It is possible to bloom in love even among the rocks, as we lean into God’s Sovereign Sway. Even in the harshest of elements of insults, hatred, anger, being ghosted by those who not only hate what we believe, but hate us. Yes, we can beautifully bloom in and through God’s love because we were created in the image of God and God is love. We can bloom in the bright SONshine of all God is. Life is not about us, it is all about Him and how He can empower us to bloom among the rocks. So if someone is “ghosting” you, devaluing you, cancelling you, don’t reflect that darkness, choose to bloom in the brightness of God, SHINE His Love and grow through, living, loving and laughing, blooming in bright yellow flowers among the rocks. Remember This: God does not “ghost” us, God stays with us, and we are seen by God and loved unconditionally by God and this has to be our enough when human beings do not love us well. God loves us well. Dig Deeper: https://thebridegroomscafe.com/faith-thoughts/